HER final hours on Tuesday in hospital were with close family and friends as Dahlia Borhan solemnly battled ovarian cancer.
Her cheerful and confident smiles were just so irrepressible, recalls former national hockey coach V.K. Chelvan.
âI was very touched. She was in pain but tried not to show it as she silently fought her cancer-setbacks. She asked me for forgiveness, thanked me for being her coach and I was surprised when she even asked for a hug,â says Chelvan.
âI hugged her, not realising that her hours were really numbered.â
Former Singapore striker-coach-mentor Dahlia passed on at the Kandang Kerbau Womenâs & Childrenâs Hospital (KKH) at 2.38pm Wednesday. She was 58.
Chelvan remembers her as a teenage-striker from Queensway Secondary School in the 1970s, who kept the hockey flag flying high for the little-known hockey-playing school.
He says: âThe dominant forces then were St Theresaâs Convent and Crescent Girls but Dahlia was like a complete virtual player, who almost single-handedly kept Queensway in the competition.
âShe was a skilful inside-forward, a very creative and hardworking player whose unselfish style of play was domineering. Her work-rate was awe-inspiring and it always motivated the rest of the players to give off their best.â
DEDICATED TO SPORTS
Dahlia later went on to play for the-then Singapore Hockey Federation (SHF) champions Singapore Recreation Club (SRC) and later coached Northland Secondary School and St Theresaâs Convent.
Chelvan, who took the national team to the 1982 Asian Games in New Delhi, adds: âShe was very dedicated to the sport and after her active playing days, she worked hard to learn the coaching traits.
âHer dream was to be a national coach and she did a few stints as assistant national coach, under some foreign coaches, and also a brief period as national coach, for which she was very proud.â
Dahlia was a stalwart member of the 1993 South-East Asia (SEA) Games gold-medal winning team under Australian coach Margaret Pierce. The first and only time Singapore won the elite hockey gold-medal, just like the menâs only singular SEAP (South-East Asia Peninsular) Games feat in 1973.
Melanie Martens, arguably the âFandi Ahmadâ of womenâs hockey, recollects her âstriker partnership with Dahlia in the 1980s and 90sâ.
âI was inside-right and she was the centre-forward and we clicked very well,â she says. âWe were about the same age and played together from school days. Dahlia was a gem of a competitive player and her lanky height gave her a lot of physical advantage, too.â
HIGHEST RESPECT
Melanie, a former principal of St Anthonyâs Canossian Secondary School (SACSS) and currently principal of the Physical Education and Sports Teacher Academy (PESTA), is ranked as the best Singapore hockey striker of world-class standards in the 1980s and 90s.
Tearfully, she says: âIâll always have the highest respect for Dahlia as she was brave and kind. She was very passionate in whatever she did and never ever uttered an unkind word of anyone. Such a quiet and graceful woman. I will miss her friendship very much.â
Melanieâs father, veteran SJI (St Josephâs Institution) educationist-coach Peter Martens, 83, adds: âIâve always been very impressed when I see Dahlia play. She gave a close challenge to my daughter and this mutual competitive spirit was outstanding in bringing out the best in the two strikers.â
Eurasian Association Vice President Yvonne Pereira, who was then-SRC hockey convenor, praises Dahlia as a âvery dedicated and invaluable playerâ. She says: âYou can expect nothing short of 100 per cent in the field of play or at training sessions and off the pitch, she was very kind-natured, who was very well-liked by her contemporaries.â
SNOC (Singapore National Olympic Council) Vice President Annabel Pennefather, who was also Past Singapore Hockey (SH) President, says Dahlia âsincerely touched the hearts of her contemporaries and the younger players because of her very warm personality.
She says: âI visited her in hospital and saw so many former national players, even those who came from China and acquired Singapore citizenship, more than 20 years ago. It says heaps about how much Dahlia was loved and respected by all whose lives she touched.â
Personally, I recollect the early 1990s when I was SRC Vice President and Dahlia was a âpowerful personality with her discipline and dedicationâ on the Padang. In my mind, she clearly stood out as a rousing role-model and, most importantly, found time to mentor the younger players, from a number of secondary schools, who were adopted under the clubâs long-term junior hockey programme.
Sports educationist and Olympic Games sprint champion Canagasabai Kunalan of 1964 (Tokyo) and 1968 (Mexico City) track-fame admired the âvery hardworking qualities of Dahliaâ. He adds: âIâm very saddened to hear of her death. She was very sporty. Nice and lean in physical attributes and thatâs how I will always remember her, a dedicated national hockey striker.â
Indiaâs junior hockey coach Jude Felix, who coached SRC in the 1990s and featured in more than 250 international matches and played for India in two World Cups and two Asian Games, sent a long-distance SMS from Bangalore: âIâm just shocked. My condolences to Dahliaâs family. She was a remarkable player-coach, who was revered by everyone she played with or coached.â
Yes, the tear-filled tributes and final salutes say volumes for an awesome Padang sportsman, who dedicated her life to the stick-and-ball sport.
She will always be remembered as a gracious personality, just such a shame that she has been taken so early in life, after being diagnosed with ovarian cancer 10 months ago.
RIP Dahlia Borhan. Truly a wonder hockey woman. â By SURESH NAIR
Suresh Nair is a Singapore-based journalist, who was club-mates and played hockey with the late Dahlia Borhan at the Singapore Recreation Club from the 1980s